When you say ‘yes’ to others, make sure you don’t say ‘no’ to yourself.” ~Paolo Coehlo
Let’s face the truth at some point in time, we all try our best to make people happy around us. These people play a significant role in our life we love them, care for them, so certainly we don’t want to disappoint them. We constantly worry about what they will think and slowly we start to give them preference over us, isn’t it? Before taking any decision we seek their acceptance and approval. Sometimes even if we don’t agree with them still, we go with their choices because their happiness matters to us.
It’s really nice to be empathetic and compassionate being. Of course, it is incredible to help others and spread happiness but it is unfortunate in that process we ignore ourselves we forget our happiness, needs, and fulfillment. Many times I found it difficult to say no in order to help others and keep them happy soon I realized it made me exhausted and frustrated. I kept taking on other people’s anxiety. Honestly, if we work only for the approval or satisfaction of others, we can never be true to self. Lastly, we will end up turning into someone else more out of line with real purpose and passion.
Trying to please is a disease where you become a puppet who’s string is in someone else hands, and you are bowing in front of their desire to make them happy! Remember you can’t please everyone all the time. Making boundaries is vital. We should know when to stop.. be aware of intentions. Desperately seeking approval from others give them the power to judge you, don’t feed their ego. Respect your happiness and needs. We only know what is best for us no one else can design our life better than us. If relations are strong enough, they can stand against the few gusts of disagreements you don’t have to make pleasing efforts to connect with them. These relationships are beyond formalities. As long as you are doing the right things with a good heart that really matters. That’s the only way you can radiate with your own light!
“Be there for others, but never leave yourself behind.” ~Dodinsky