When you say ‘yes’ to others, make sure you don’t say ‘no’ to yourself.” ~Paolo Coehlo
Let’s face the truth at some point in time, we all try our best to make people happy around us. These people play a significant role in our life we love them, care for them, so certainly we don’t want to disappoint them. We constantly worry about what they will think and slowly we start to give them preference over us, isn’t it? Before taking any decision we seek their acceptance and approval. Sometimes even if we don’t agree with them still, we go with their choices because their happiness matters to us.
It’s really nice to be empathetic and compassionate being. Of course, it is incredible to help others and spread happiness but it is unfortunate in that process we ignore ourselves we forget our happiness, needs, and fulfillment. Many times I found it difficult to say no in order to help others and keep them happy soon I realized it made me exhausted and frustrated. I kept taking on other people’s anxiety. Honestly, if we work only for the approval or satisfaction of others, we can never be true to self. Lastly, we will end up turning into someone else more out of line with real purpose and passion.
Trying to please is a disease where you become a puppet who’s string is in someone else hands, and you are bowing in front of their desire to make them happy! Remember you can’t please everyone all the time. Making boundaries is vital. We should know when to stop.. be aware of intentions. Desperately seeking approval from others give them the power to judge you, don’t feed their ego. Respect your happiness and needs. We only know what is best for us no one else can design our life better than us. If relations are strong enough, they can stand against the few gusts of disagreements you don’t have to make pleasing efforts to connect with them. These relationships are beyond formalities. As long as you are doing the right things with a good heart that really matters. That’s the only way you can radiate with your own light!
“Be there for others, but never leave yourself behind.” ~Dodinsky
Every time I feel low, I come back to your space for some inspiration ❤
Love and Hugs
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Thanks a lot dear Bhavna! 🤗 I am really glad you can relate to my posts and find them helpful! ✨😊
The words of appreciation are coming from your side …This means a lot to me!!❤️
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Sending Love and Hugs .
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This!! It’s so easy to neglect ourselves while doing so much for others. Great reminder!
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Exactly! 😊 Thank you so much dear for stopping by and taking time to read the post! So Glad you get the real essence of my words.. your appreciation means a lot to me.. 💛
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Good one.. The quote “Be there for others, but never leave yourself behind ” matters a lot.
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Thanks a lot dear for stopping by and taking time to read the post! Glad you enjoyed reading it! Your thoughtful words matters a lot..😊
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Elevating words 🙂
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Thank you so much Khyati! 💛
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True post. I can relate it. You write it so beautifully Kranti. Great😊
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Thank you so much dear for your kind words! 💛 Glad you can relate to this post! 😊 thank you dear for stopping by and taking time to read the post!!
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such a wonderful message. Great post😊
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Thanks a lot dear for your kind words! 😊
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truly my pleasure♥️
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Wonderful🧡
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Thanks a bunch Shweta! 🧡
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You have a beautiful blog! I would like to nominate you for the “Blogger Recognition Award”.
Your participation is of course voluntary. Here are the rules: https://amiracarluccio.com/2018/07/17/nominated-for-the-blogger-recognition-award/
Enjoy!!! Amira
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Thank you so much Amira for your kind words and nomination! 😊I truly appreciate it! 💛 Have a wonderful day ✨
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Completely agree with this point Kranti, but yes we all forget this at times and get trapped in some way.
Welldone post!!
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Thank you so much dear! ❤️😊
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You are welcome dear!!😊
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Dear friend,
I have nominated your for: “The Bloggers Recognition Award”
Participation is voluntary of course.
Here the details:
https://didisvgp.wordpress.com/2018/07/17/nominated-for-the-bloggers-recognition-award/
All good wishes to you
Didi
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Congrats dear! 😊 Thank you so much for the nomination and wishes! I really appreciate it!😊
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Thanks, my friend 🙂
and also welcome 🙂
Have a great time
Didi
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You are so welcome dear! Have a wonderful day! 🙂
Kranti.
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Thanks, dear Kranti 🙂
Didi
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🙂
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Sometimes compassion becomes a double-edged sword in these matters. Rather than aiming to please, I’ve often found myself going above and beyond to ensure others are happy (especially my loved ones) because they mean so much to me, even at the detriment of my own happiness. I’ve now learned that boundaries are crucial for healthy functioning. And I can’t help others be happy if I haven’t taken care of my needs first. 🙂
Lovely blog. I’ll be back to visit again!
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I agree Sindhuja making boundaries are crucial but it is necessary as empty vessel quenches no one’s thirst and in the long run people also start taking you for granted which is not good for healthy relationship at all.. thank you so much Sindhuja for stopping by and taking time to read and share your views! You are always welcome dear! Hugs & love!!
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“Empty vessel quenches no one’s thirst” – absolute truth! 🙂
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💛🤗
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I have nominated you for You Name It fun….
https://daisymae874.wordpress.com/2018/07/14/game-on-you-name-it/
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Hey Jay, thank you so much for the nomination! I really appreciate it! but yesterday only I did this challenge https://sparkklingthoughts.wordpress.com/2018/07/13/friday-funday-challenge-game-on-you-name-it … 🙂
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Lol no problem
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😊
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Great post. It’s so easy to forget our needs, wants and desires. Life gets so busy, but it’s really beneficial to slow down and enjoy life.
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Yes dear it is! Thank you so much for stopping by and taking time to read the post! I appreciate your words. Have a wonderful day! 😊
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Hiiii…..🙋🙋🙋
It’s been so long..
We haven’t talked to each other.😀😀😀
So, here I am. 🤗
Definitely you’re right.
Pleasing is a disease. And we don’t need this. I think we should Focus on ourselves more than the other people. 🤔🤔 …….
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Hi! So true Kaby we should respect our needs and fulfillment! 😊Thank you dear for taking time to read the post! Yes it’s been long time.. I thought you are busy so… 😊 have a wonderful day! 🤗
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It’s night here….😜😜…
Yeah, I’m quite busy with my own content on WordPress….🙂🙂🤗🤗❤❤.
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Ok then good night! 😊 I understand.. 😊
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Good Morning…..❤❤.
It’s good morning to your side na !!?…
😀😀
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Actually noon..😊
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Ohh…..
Good Afternoon then.. 😄😄🤗🤗
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Good Afternoon dear! 😊
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You again forget..
It’s Good night here..
😝😝😝😝😂😂😂😂😂😂.
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Ok I am sorry again! Good Afternoon for me and good night for you! 😊
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Why Sorry??…
I’m just teasing you…
😝😝😂😂😂….
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I know that.. 😉😊
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😀😀
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See I wrote sorry and you stopped teasing me! 😀
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Yep…
I was just a little afraid…😛😛
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😊
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This is inspiring… Amazing post with great motivation Kranti… Well done
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Thank you so much Rotimi! I appreciate your encouraging words! 😊
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Yes dear friend… Keep inspiring
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😊
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Lovely post, Kranti!
I’ve nominated you for The Liebster Award:
https://dragonsinmycoffee.wordpress.com/2018/07/12/the-liebster-award-more-of-who-i-am/
If your blog is award-free, please accept this nomination as a compliment 🙂
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Thank you so much Soundarya! I appreciate your kind words! 💛 Thanks a lot for the nomination dear! I am humbled 💗
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Damn true. I so love it
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Thank you so much Shantanu! Glad you loved it! 😊🌸
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My pleasure always
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😊
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Such a powerful post Kranti 😊
Reminds me one of quote which I read somewhere …
“Kisike kadmo me itna bhi mat gir jao, ki ek din woh tumhe kuchal ke aage nikal jaae”.. & nd it happens.. so thank you for sharing this..!!!
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Yeh sach hai Prasad kabhi kabhi log hamari kindness ka advantage lene lgte hai.. kaphi waqt lga yeh smjhne mai! Pr kehte hai na der aaye durst aaye! 😇 Thank you so much for your thoughtful words! Always my pleasure 😊
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Bilkul Sahi baat hai Kranti..
Shikayat toh nhi hai kuch par .. experience aa chuka hai .. !!
So it’s great to read your work..!!
Keep writing Kranti.. 🙂
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Shi hai gir ke smbhlna hi zindgi hai 😊 Thanks a lot dear!! Happy blogging to you too! ✨
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Exactly.. 😊 happy blogging ! 🙂
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Wonderful post and I 100% agree to every word of it!❤
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Thank you so much Richa! ❤️❤️
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❤️❤️
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Lovely post and couldn’t agree more! I think I am finally learning this, what I want matters too 🙂
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Thank you so much dear! 😊Glad you liked the post! Happy for you💛
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Hey, Dusty can you please check your spam folder seems like my comments are landing there. Thank you, dear!
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Yes it was there, retrieved and replied now 🙂 That’s strange, I wonder why that is happening?
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Don’t know Dusty but for sure I am fed up of this.. looks like WP glitch!!
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Oh no, I hope that WP can sort it out for you!
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Hope so dear as many other fellow bloggers are also facing the same problem!! Just keep an eye on spam folder dear! 😊
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I definitely will, thanks for the letting me know about it! Have a lovely weekend 🙂
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No problem dear! 😊
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Very nice Kranti ji.
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Thank you so much Shayar Ji!💛
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You’re always welcome Kranti ji.
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Great post
Best lines- Trying to please is a disease where you become a puppet who’s string is in someone else hands, and you are bowing in front of their desire to make them happy!
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Thank you so much Aditi for taking time to read the post! I appreciate your kind words! 💛
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Amazing post n sometimes its gud to be selfish n do whatever you want to do..great thought👍🏻
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Indeed! 😊Thank you so much dear for taking time to read the post! I appreciate your thoughtful words! 💛
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Pleasure is all mine👍🏻
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😊
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Hey dear, can you please check your spam folder… It seems my comments are landing there.. thank you!
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It took many years for me to learn this valuable lesson. You are absolutely right -“trying to please others is a disease”
Well-written 💙
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Same here! 😊Thank you so much Unni ji! 💛
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So the moral of this post is -” dont give ‘sweets’ to people everytime” 😀
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Exactly! 😀But don’t forget you have to give me one.. I am still waiting! 😬😊
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(lord unni grants wish… )
9.00 am you will get a short but sweet mention in my latest blog post.. i hope you will be kinder”joy” after seeing it
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😀😀 Thank you lord Unni glad you are giving me such honor but still that sweet Cadbury is pending! 😬😊
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I will give u a real Cadbury on my birthday (next month) 🤔👍
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Wow! How lucky I am 😊😊 date?
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Ooh… So you are preparing for some govt exam and want to know the date of birth of Unni the great 😬
It is August 24.. UN declared this date as International fiasco day
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No actually I wanted to wish you lord unni 😬😊
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Oh wow
Those who wish me will get custom cover photo for blog
+
Cadbury (real one)
+
Custom animation wish on their birthday
Ok see u
(I have to apply for a bank loan to find money to do all these.. 😖)
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😀😀 Thank you so much lord unni 🙏
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You are welcome (with gifts for me) 😬👍
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Indeed! 😬😊
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Great post ❤️
Agree with you …
We can’t please everyone all the time.
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Absolutely! Thank you so much Mahee! ❤️
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😊🌹
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I was going through some ancient texts of India in this regard and it says become man of principles not man of people. Principles can be universal such as truthfulness, tolerance, humanism, honesty, benevolence etc. If we keep our actions aligned to them, then we will not become prey to the whims of individual and following these principles will give us inner satisfaction.
Yet the caveat lies in chosing those principles.
Liked your idea.
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Seems like an interesting read Abhay! 💛Thank you so much Abhay for taking time to read the post and share your opinion! 😊
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