Expectations-Chasing The Mirage


“What will mess you up most in life is the picture in your head of how it is supposed to be.” 

Expectations are the mirage based on an image which you had envisioned at some point in time. You found yourself irresistibly drawn to these alluring expectations to fulfill them you begin to chase them the more you pursue, the more they rob your peace and happiness.

When expectations rule your life, the pressure, fear, and doubt become part of your life. You start judging yourself harshly. Your inner critic accepts nothing less. You find yourself befuddled with unmet expectations that lead to emotional breakdown and trigger anger, bitterness, jealousy, comparison, and frustration.. as you lack the energy to hold them back this inhibits you from living and enjoying the life.

Many time I observe people align their goals with these boundless expectations and keep waiting for the optimum current to come along so they can dive and swim to reach their picture-perfect destination, in that they lose many fruitful opportunities. They are so wrapped up in far away future that they lose sight of the present.

Being human it’s so difficult to get rid of expectations completely. Instead of making these expectations the base of your happiness and contentment, making small goals based on realistic situation and resources, keeping the room for uncertainty can escape you from being trapped and keep you motivated to explore and enjoy the process. Willingness to go with the flow opens you to experience the beauty of life that is beyond any expectation.

“When you release expectations, you are free to enjoy things for what they are instead of what you think they should be.”

109 thoughts on “Expectations-Chasing The Mirage

  1. A truth expressed…I always say, not accepting leads to frustration… and even if there are expectations, what are they based on. As humans we are habit forming creatures and yet we put unannounced expectations on others without their permission. your post is thought provoking! thanks for sharing such insight

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  3. Rightly said Kranti.. .. Expectation is one common thing each individual has… Its entirely difficult to neglect it but as said if as long as it is on realistic situation we can enjoy life…

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    1. Thank you so much Rajini for your precious time and even more precious words! I am so glad you could relate …….
Will be happy if this makes you feel better 😊


    1. Thanks a lot Kalyan for your precious time and even more precious words! I am so happy you liked it! The words of appreciation are coming from your side …This means a lot to me 😊

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  4. Much needed for me right now.
    The reason behind disappointments is expectations that we set.

    I agree that we should set realistic & small goals/ expectations 😊

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    1. Indeed life is full of surprises when you least expect it and it gives us immense pleasure!

      Thanks a lot, Kavita! I really appreciate the fact, that you take out your precious time to read and comment ..This means a lot to me 😊

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    1. I agree in the beginning they allure and work as a motivation..but when you begin to chase them often you find yourself stuck between picture-perfect imagination and reality!

      Thank you so much Abhay for reading and sharing your thoughts! Your thoughtful words and constant support means a lot to me 😊


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