“What will mess you up most in life is the picture in your head of how it is supposed to be.”
Expectations are the mirage based on an image which you had envisioned at some point in time. You found yourself irresistibly drawn to these alluring expectations to fulfill them you begin to chase them the more you pursue, the more they rob your peace and happiness.
When expectations rule your life, the pressure, fear, and doubt become part of your life. You start judging yourself harshly. Your inner critic accepts nothing less. You find yourself befuddled with unmet expectations that lead to emotional breakdown and trigger anger, bitterness, jealousy, comparison, and frustration.. as you lack the energy to hold them back this inhibits you from living and enjoying the life.
Many time I observe people align their goals with these boundless expectations and keep waiting for the optimum current to come along so they can dive and swim to reach their picture-perfect destination, in that they lose many fruitful opportunities. They are so wrapped up in far away future that they lose sight of the present.
Being human it’s so difficult to get rid of expectations completely. Instead of making these expectations the base of your happiness and contentment, making small goals based on realistic situation and resources, keeping the room for uncertainty can escape you from being trapped and keep you motivated to explore and enjoy the process. Willingness to go with the flow opens you to experience the beauty of life that is beyond any expectation.
“When you release expectations, you are free to enjoy things for what they are instead of what you think they should be.”
So true, we are our own worse critics. Sometimes we get so obsessed with the future that we forget to live today and appreciate the things we have accomplished in present time.
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Absolutely dear! Thank you so much for your precious time! So glad you enjoyed reading it! Have a beautiful day! ❤️☕️
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My pleasure you too! 🙂
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A truth expressed…I always say, not accepting leads to frustration… and even if there are expectations, what are they based on. As humans we are habit forming creatures and yet we put unannounced expectations on others without their permission. your post is thought provoking! thanks for sharing such insight
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You are so right dear! Thank you so much for reading and sharing your views! Very happy you liked it! I am really humbled by your kind words ..Means a lot to me 😊
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my pleasure…you stimulated my mind and I responded… Truth not flattery…Have a wonderful weekend
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Aww.. that’s very nice of you to say 😊 Thank you so much dear for your wishes!!
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Really wonderful. You have expressed your thoughts well.
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Thank you so much, Sir, for reading and appreciating! I am so happy you liked it.. your words of encouragement means a lot to me 😊
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I see both side of coins in expectations! 1 they can lead to broken hearts…2 they can lead you do more for others!!
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Thank you so much Sajal for taking the time to read this post and sharing your views! I appreciate your kindness 😊
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sure dear and thank you for thinking of me
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Thanks a Lot 🙂
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Pleasure is all mine 😊
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🙂
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What a beautiful way you put it together. And is the quote in the beginning written by you?
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Thank you so much, Shantanu for always showering your kindness…This means a lot to me 🌸❤️
No dear, it is written by an unknown person 😊
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You wrote it beautifully. 😊🌸
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Thank you 😊🌸
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My absolute pleasure
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I love how you have expresses your thoughts.
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Thank you so much Moushmi for reading and appreciating! So glad you enjoyed reading it! I am really humbled by your kind words ..Means a lot to me 😊
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Its so amazing and true that sometimes we forget present in search of future
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Exactly!! Thank you so much dear for your precious time and even more precious words! I am so glad you liked the post.. this means a lot to me 😊
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K R A N T I !!! 💕 one of my FAVORITE bloggers!! I see you’re still encouraging people like always !! Such a sweet sweet spirit !! If you don’t remember me, I’ll give you a hint … I’m Jessica from the old blog personalgrowthsuccess!! I just recently went self hosted !! 💕 you should come connect with me over there !!
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Hey Jessica, How are you? Hope you are doing good.. How can I forget you.. beautiful soul. Thank you so much for inviting me! I sure will ❤️🤗
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Thank you so much for having me again !!! 😘 I’m excited about being self hosted now!
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Always! ❤️ Great news indeed 😘🤗
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Well said Kranti! Wise and so true!❤️
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Thanks a lot, dear Richa for your beautiful words of encouragement! I appreciate your kindness ❤️🤗
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Rightly said Kranti.. .. Expectation is one common thing each individual has… Its entirely difficult to neglect it but as said if as long as it is on realistic situation we can enjoy life…
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Thank you so much, Chiru for reading and appreciating! I am really glad you got the real essence of it.. Your observation and understanding is perfect 😊
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Your posts are worth it Kranti… Keep posting.
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That’s very kind of you to say 😊
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Beautifully said…i needed these words!
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Thank you so much Rajini for your precious time and even more precious words! I am so glad you could relate ……. Will be happy if this makes you feel better 😊
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yes very much. Mere scriptural readings doesn’t matter…practical thoughts does!
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Most certainly, it does!! Once again thank you so much 😊
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Expectations can ruin everything. This was a great post.
Our perspective can make such a difference.
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Absolutely!! Thank you so much Drew for reading and appreciating! The words of appreciation are coming from your side …This means a lot to me 😊
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Smiling
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Agreed…Ur work truly praise worthy
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Thank you so much dear for reading and appreciating! So glad you enjoyed reading it! I am really humbled by your kind words ..Means a lot to me 😊
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My pleasure dear …U also deserve a lot of thanks for sharing this post😉
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You read it and understood the real essence of it .This made me feel worth it 😊
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😊💞
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Well said Kranti! 100% spot on!❤️
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Thank you so much, Richa. You have always blessed me with your precious time and kind words ….This means a lot to me ❤️
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❤❤❤❤
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❤️❤️🤗🤗
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This is so true!!
Very well written❤
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Thank you so much dear Yasmin, for reading and appreciating! I am so happy you liked it! Your words of encouragement means a lot to me ❤️🤗
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Well said Kranti! Key word being happiness, realistic, & contentment. When our expectations are realistic, we won’t be so often disappointed. And lack of often disappointment means more happiness.
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Absolutely dear! Thank you so much for your precious time and even more precious words! I am so happy you got the essence right.. This means a lot to me ❤️
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Really very true Kranti! 💕 Expectation is a mistrusted emotion and can lead you in a land of uncertainty…great going…😊😊
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Exactly!! Thank you so much Piyush for reading, appreciating and adding your beautiful words to my writing! I am totally humbled by your kind words 💕😊
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Pleasure’s always mine! 😊💕
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😊💕
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Wonderful share! I like your idea of “keeping the room for uncertainty can escape you from being trapped” to reduce the expectations.
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Exactly! Thanks a lot, Megala for reading and appreciating! I am so glad you got the essence right. I greatly appreciate your kind words ❤️
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Pleasure is all mine! 🙂
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😊
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Expectations can behave as a daily driver and a depressing agent too. Quite informative. Keep up the amazing writeup
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Thanks a lot Kalyan for your precious time and even more precious words! I am so happy you liked it! The words of appreciation are coming from your side …This means a lot to me 😊
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My pleasure 🙂
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This is like Euraka …
“What will mess you up most in life is the picture in your head of how it is supposed to be.” – Wow!
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Haha.. thank you so much for reading and appreciating! I am glad you liked it.. this means a lot to me 😊
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Agree Kranti. Your concluding lines summed up the post perfectly 👍
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Thank you so much Radhika! I am so glad you liked the post! I greatly appreciate your kind words ❤️
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Much needed for me right now.
The reason behind disappointments is expectations that we set.
I agree that we should set realistic & small goals/ expectations 😊
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Thank you so much Sumeet for reading and appreciating! I am so glad you got the essence right.. this means a lot to me 😊
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Good ONE!!! You nailed it 🙂 Thank you 🙂 🙂
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Thank you so much Alisa for your words of encouragement..glad you liked the post…This means a lot to me 😊
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Keep on Shining Lovely Lady!
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Thank you for your beautiful words!! Stay blessed dear ❤️😊
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I no longer have expectations. When i am surprised, im pleasantly pleased.
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Indeed life is full of surprises when you least expect it and it gives us immense pleasure!
Thanks a lot, Kavita! I really appreciate the fact, that you take out your precious time to read and comment ..This means a lot to me 😊
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I didn’t expect this exceptional post 😀
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Exceptional really..How
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oops.. expect, ‘except’ion …. aajkal poem write karke rhyme add karne ka tendency aagaya :-3
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Haha.. koi na thank you Unni ji for taking time to read and comment! Aapki to poetry bhi sir aankhon pe 😊
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Wonderful post…
Totally agree 👍
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Thanks a lot, Fariha for stopping by! I am So glad you liked the post! Your constant support and words of encouragement means a lot to me ❤️😊
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My pleasure, always 😊
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This is a post that depicts reality….thanks for sharing kranti
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Thank you so much dear for your precious time and even more precious words! I am so glad you liked it! Totally humbled by your kindness ❤️
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Thank u toooo
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😊❤️
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But expectations works as a motivation too!
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I agree in the beginning they allure and work as a motivation..but when you begin to chase them often you find yourself stuck between picture-perfect imagination and reality!
Thank you so much Abhay for reading and sharing your thoughts! Your thoughtful words and constant support means a lot to me 😊
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Je baat bhi hai😊
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Totally Agreed 👍
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Thank you so much Nirant for taking time to read and comment.. this means a lot to me and I am glad you agree with me 😊💙
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Pleasure always for ur work mate 😊
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😊
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You are so right Kranti
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Thank you so much dear Adi for reading and appreciating! Your constant support means a lot to me ❤️🤗
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🤔🤔
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Wrong emoji 🤗🤗🤗
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No problem dear 🤗
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Totally agree with you Kranti, nice post 😇🙏🏻💖
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Thank you so much Anjali for your words of encouragement! I am really happy you liked it. This means a lot to me 🙏💖😊
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My pleasure 💖
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😊💖
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